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The Rumpelstiltskin Boss

The Rumpelstiltskin Boss

If you are a lover of fairy-tale stories, you may have heard about a man named Rumpelstiltskin. Here goes the story….

The story was about the beautiful daughter of a poor miller. The poor miller visits the king and lies to him that his beautiful daughter. He tells the king that she has the ability of turning straw into gold.

The king, in turn, requests for the daughter’s presence. He takes her into a room full of straw, provides her a spinning wheel, and asks her to turn the straw into gold. She has to complete the task by daybreak or she will be put to death. The poor miller’s daughter was left alone in the room with no idea on how to spin the straw into gold. She began to feel afraid and started crying.

Suddenly the door opened and there stood a little man greeting the poor girl. He asked her the reason behind her tears. The girl told him that she needed to spin the straw into gold, before daybreak, or she would surely be put to death by the king. The little man said that he will help her, but he wanted to get something in return. The girl offered him her necklace, and he started to work, until all straw were spun into gold.

When the king appeared in the morning, he was full of surprise and happiness. But he became more greedy and ask the girl to do the same thing in another room with more straw, and threatened to kill her again if its not done. The little man came as usual with the girl offering her ring to him in return for his help, whirr, whirr, whirr, all the straws were turned into gold.

On the third day, the king came as usual, full of happiness, but still greedy. He offered the girl another straw room bigger than the previous two, with the promise that she will become the queen if she manages to turn all the straw into gold.

The girl sat down full of sadness unable to do anything to the straw. There came the little man again, but this time she had nothing left to offer him. The little man requested for her unborn first child in return for his work. Unable to find another option, the girl agreed and all the straw were turned to gold.

Years later, after becoming the queen, she gave birth to her first child. One night, the little man visited the queen and asked her to fulfill the promise that she made. The queen became frightened and offered him all the riches in the kingdom, but he was adamant. However, he promised to leave her alone for good if she managed to tell him his name within three days.

The queen pondered and inquired from people throughout the kingdom about the little man, but none was able to offer any meaningful response. Then one day, a messenger reported back to her relating an experience that he had about a little man singing, “Tonight tonight, my plans I make, tomorrow tomorrow the baby I take. The queen will never win the game, for Rumpelstiltskin is my name.”

The queen was very happy when she heard the lyrics. So when the little man came on the third day, she told him his name (Rumpelstiltskin). He became dejected and angry, which caused him to tear himself into two.

Who is a Rumpelstiltskin Boss?

The role of the little man from the above story depicts the character of a Rumpelstiltskin boss. These types of managers are self-centered with an egoistical nature. Although its not a bad thing to be proud of one’s achievement, which is the result of hard work, they take it to another level by being uncaring of other’s best interests.

The Rumpelstiltskin boss needs to recognize and appreciate the efforts of his staff that make the project a successful one. Praising himself in the presence of his staffs will surely hurt their feelings, which can lead to a withdrawn and unproductive workforce.

Fortunately, there are ways to stand up for yourself as an employee to avoid getting trampled upon by Rumpelstiltskin bosses in their quests for recognition.

Understand your Boss’s Weakness and Take Advantage

If your boss has a Rumpelstiltskin character, then you need to always be ahead of him. Use your instinct to determine his vulnerabilities regarding his job. Who knows, your boss might be the type that gets easily disturbed after making an error.

Make your Boss Realize the Effect of His or Her Behavior

If your self-seeking boss raised her voice at any of the staffs within the department, please don’t react in a negative way. Speak in a calm voice and make him realize the impression that his actions will have on the staff.

Maybe the staff are planning to change jobs because of his outbursts. If you get wind of this, your boss may benefit from knowing so that he can make some needed adjustments in his behavior.

Make a Plan and Execute it

If you have been working overtime and you are at the risk of loosing your health, quickly make a plan! Instead of working overtime everyday including weekends, set some limits. Check your wrist watch and explain to your boss about your own personal commitments. Many people have family obligations or perhaps a dog that needs to be walked.

Although he should be able to consider that your health comes first.

Create a Good Working Relationship with your Fellow Coworkers

If your boss desires all the credit of the successful projects, make him realize the importance of having a good working relationship with others by sharing accomplishment with fellow staff.

For example, show him the emails that you send to each staff praising their contributions. He should see their positive response, which will make him reflect and change his selfish ways.

Some managers always turn a blind eye to the needs of their staff. If your boss is the Rumpelstiltskin type with an egoistical nature, and that affects your work performance and contribution, you definitely need a change of job.

However, if you can overlook your manager’s personality flaws, or if they can be tamed with the possibility of developing a better character, take up the challenge and succeed in your work.

Rumpelstiltskin

Disclaimer: Bad boss posts are meant to be humorous and should not be taken seriously. Learning the traits of a bad manager can help you to avoid those behaviors and become a better leader.

The Bumbler Boss

The Bumbler Boss

Any employee in an organization is generally looking forward to meeting their new boss. In most cases, you believe that this new boss will aid in your development in becoming an expert in your chosen career.

Unfortunately, there are many managers that aren’t qualified for their position but still manage to get promoted and hold on to it. These types of managers are incompetent and cannot even manage their own household for that matter. Therefore, they should not be in charge of a multi-million dollar department, or company, which makes them a Bumbler Bosses.

So, how do you know if your manager is the Bumbler type? The below tips will help you in recognizing the traits of an incompetent boss.

Too lazy to Handle Projects

If your manager always finds his or her work too cumbersome or constantly turns out late assignments, or he doesn’t even at all, then your boss is a bumbler’s type. Competent managers always handle their projects effectively while also giving their staffs the needed support and advise without complain!

Of course, we are all human and there could be an occasional late assignment due to unforeseen circumstances, we’re referring to a bumbler type as someone is does this as a habit.

Always Employing Consultants

The Bumbler boss’s way of putting off decision making is by delegating their projects to their subordinates. Some Bumblers even will go as far as hiring a consultant in order to avoid making decisions on their own.

After the consultant options are presented, a debate may follow that takes hours, days, or months. However, the company becomes poorer due to the hiring fee. When the consultants leave, the Bumbler boss is left considerably behind in their assignments again.

He or She is Highly Secretive

Is your manager the type that always hides information from the staff? These type of managers hold the view that their staff will be confused or distracted from their work.

However, any manager that has this trait is surely afraid of being challenged by his or her staff. Bumbler bosses would rather defend their position, rather than facing challenges that will move the company forward.

Always Avoiding Responsibilities

If your manager always has his door closed, or an excuse to cancel your one-on-one, or the scheduled department meeting, even when it’s important, then your boss is surely incompetent.

A competent manager must always be available to the staff, whether for a clear explanation about an assignment or to give positive feedback on work done by employees.

Having a Bumbler as a manager doesn’t mean your career is doomed! Don’t be so eager in looking for a new job in your bid to escape the incompetency of your boss. There is much to gain from working for a Bumbler boss. Try to adjust to his or her demands, and overlook your Bubmler boss’s failings. This could serve as a blessing in disguise in the future.

 How to Deal with an Incompetent Boss

Disclaimer: Bad Boss posts are meant to be humorous and should not be taken seriously. If you work for an incompetent boss, document everything, keep doing a good job, and keep your emotions in check.

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The Bullseye Boss

The Bullseye Boss

The Bullseye Boss targets his employees by blaming them for everything. Even if you get to work early, do your best work, have a healthy relationship with your colleagues, and avoid breaking any rules, these actions will go unnoticed by the Bullseye Boss.

In business, you’ll find that there are bosses, and even coworkers, who will either contribute to your success, or put you down. The Bullseye Boss is a champion at putting a target on his employee’s backs and striking at any moment.

Working for this type of boss will make you feel humiliated as he undermines your performance, making your efforts seem absolutely worthless. So, how do you deal with a Bullseye Boss?

The below tips will help you to become well-prepared to deal with such situations.

Give your Boss The Benefit of the Doubt

Don’t become defensive. Give your boss the benefit of doubt by imagining that you are being too sensitive, or you are misinterpreting his tone. Your boss might not be necessarily focused on other’s feelings, but rather is concentrating on the facts.

Step back and reassess the situation from an honest point of view. Try and speak with your boss in a one on one situation to reduce any chance of misunderstanding.

Explain to your Boss How You Feel

At times, your manager might not be aware of the impact that his statement and attitude have on you emotionally. Maybe your boss has gotten carried away by his own personal feelings, which makes him unaware of the harshness in his tone of voice.

A sensitive and friendly conversation can help raise awareness on the issue. Rehearse your statements beforehand to avoid getting emotional during the conversation. Discuss the current issue, including how it has affected your work and request changes that you would like to happen.

Avoid Being Personal

Developing a thick skin will make it easier to put up with a boss that feels threatened by his staff. You obviously are aware that your boss is belittling others and is doing so out of his or her own insecurities. He may be acting this way to make himself feel better, or more satisfied, in his own work. If so, you can try to ignore it altogether.

It will not help the situation to call him out on his behavior in front of your colleagues. Instead, find out what caused the problem, fix it, and move on with your work. This will help to avoid the problem becoming an issue again.

Show What You are Capable of

Perhaps, your Bullseye Boss always sees you as a fool. He totally got it wrong because there is a reason you are employed in the first place. Prove your boss is wrong, by stepping up your performance.

By delivering quality work every time, your boss might see an error in his criticism. Ask your boss what he thinks that you could be doing differently. Maybe you’re not aware of some mistake that you’re making. Make him aware that you appreciate the job and want to please him. This will go a long way with your boss.

Finally

Every employee deserves to be seen  for what they represent and their capability. If a Bullseye boss doesn’t give you the respect that you deserve, try implementing the above tips. These tips will help to open the boss’s eyes to how valuable you are and the way that you should be treated.

Disclaimer: Coping with a boss who is always blaming can be a draining situation to be in! Don’t give up.