The Rumpelstiltskin Boss
If you are a lover of fairy-tale stories, you may have heard about a man named Rumpelstiltskin. Here goes the story….
The story was about the beautiful daughter of a poor miller. The poor miller visits the king and lies to him that his beautiful daughter. He tells the king that she has the ability of turning straw into gold.
The king, in turn, requests for the daughter’s presence. He takes her into a room full of straw, provides her a spinning wheel, and asks her to turn the straw into gold. She has to complete the task by daybreak or she will be put to death. The poor miller’s daughter was left alone in the room with no idea on how to spin the straw into gold. She began to feel afraid and started crying.
Suddenly the door opened and there stood a little man greeting the poor girl. He asked her the reason behind her tears. The girl told him that she needed to spin the straw into gold, before daybreak, or she would surely be put to death by the king. The little man said that he will help her, but he wanted to get something in return. The girl offered him her necklace, and he started to work, until all straw were spun into gold.
When the king appeared in the morning, he was full of surprise and happiness. But he became more greedy and ask the girl to do the same thing in another room with more straw, and threatened to kill her again if its not done. The little man came as usual with the girl offering her ring to him in return for his help, whirr, whirr, whirr, all the straws were turned into gold.
On the third day, the king came as usual, full of happiness, but still greedy. He offered the girl another straw room bigger than the previous two, with the promise that she will become the queen if she manages to turn all the straw into gold.
The girl sat down full of sadness unable to do anything to the straw. There came the little man again, but this time she had nothing left to offer him. The little man requested for her unborn first child in return for his work. Unable to find another option, the girl agreed and all the straw were turned to gold.
Years later, after becoming the queen, she gave birth to her first child. One night, the little man visited the queen and asked her to fulfill the promise that she made. The queen became frightened and offered him all the riches in the kingdom, but he was adamant. However, he promised to leave her alone for good if she managed to tell him his name within three days.
The queen pondered and inquired from people throughout the kingdom about the little man, but none was able to offer any meaningful response. Then one day, a messenger reported back to her relating an experience that he had about a little man singing, “Tonight tonight, my plans I make, tomorrow tomorrow the baby I take. The queen will never win the game, for Rumpelstiltskin is my name.”
The queen was very happy when she heard the lyrics. So when the little man came on the third day, she told him his name (Rumpelstiltskin). He became dejected and angry, which caused him to tear himself into two.
Who is a Rumpelstiltskin Boss?
The role of the little man from the above story depicts the character of a Rumpelstiltskin boss. These types of managers are self-centered with an egoistical nature. Although its not a bad thing to be proud of one’s achievement, which is the result of hard work, they take it to another level by being uncaring of other’s best interests.
The Rumpelstiltskin boss needs to recognize and appreciate the efforts of his staff that make the project a successful one. Praising himself in the presence of his staffs will surely hurt their feelings, which can lead to a withdrawn and unproductive workforce.
Fortunately, there are ways to stand up for yourself as an employee to avoid getting trampled upon by Rumpelstiltskin bosses in their quests for recognition.
Understand your Boss’s Weakness and Take Advantage
If your boss has a Rumpelstiltskin character, then you need to always be ahead of him. Use your instinct to determine his vulnerabilities regarding his job. Who knows, your boss might be the type that gets easily disturbed after making an error.
Make your Boss Realize the Effect of His or Her Behavior
If your self-seeking boss raised her voice at any of the staffs within the department, please don’t react in a negative way. Speak in a calm voice and make him realize the impression that his actions will have on the staff.
Maybe the staff are planning to change jobs because of his outbursts. If you get wind of this, your boss may benefit from knowing so that he can make some needed adjustments in his behavior.
Make a Plan and Execute it
If you have been working overtime and you are at the risk of loosing your health, quickly make a plan! Instead of working overtime everyday including weekends, set some limits. Check your wrist watch and explain to your boss about your own personal commitments. Many people have family obligations or perhaps a dog that needs to be walked.
Although he should be able to consider that your health comes first.
Create a Good Working Relationship with your Fellow Coworkers
If your boss desires all the credit of the successful projects, make him realize the importance of having a good working relationship with others by sharing accomplishment with fellow staff.
For example, show him the emails that you send to each staff praising their contributions. He should see their positive response, which will make him reflect and change his selfish ways.
Some managers always turn a blind eye to the needs of their staff. If your boss is the Rumpelstiltskin type with an egoistical nature, and that affects your work performance and contribution, you definitely need a change of job.
However, if you can overlook your manager’s personality flaws, or if they can be tamed with the possibility of developing a better character, take up the challenge and succeed in your work.