High School Never Ended for the Mean Girl Boss… 3 Ways to Be a…
#1) Gain Power by High Maintenance
The first objective of a mean girl boss is to gain power. This is done through a high maintenance strategy of a self confidence boosting physical appearance. Wear the latest trends, drive a flashy car, claim your parking spot, and decorate your office with your special touch. Working in an office with other women is rough business. Therefore, the only way to intimidate other women coworkers is to always be put together and beautiful. High maintenance is the key to your success as a mean girl boss!
Office policy: Always look put together!
#2) Establish your Clique of Mean Girls
Once you’ve achieved your position of mean girl boss, next you’ll need to establish your clique of mean girls. Always recruit one stupid girl. She will follow and never question your position. Next, find an appoint a know-it-all to keep you up to par on anything and everything job related. Avoid shy girls as they will buckle under pressure, and not be useful, when you need someone to get your back. Your clique of mean girls is very important to your confidence. If at any point, one of these girls tries to turn into a mean girl to you, immediately make an example of them by firing her.
Motivation: Upgrading personal gain & social status.
#3) Set Mean Girl Boss Standards
Be strong with your mean girl clique, but keep them on your side. Undermining, belittling, and talking behind their backs is ok by you, but do not tolerate this treatment by anyone else. Set standards that are impossible for anyone to follow, including your employees. As a result, your group will try harder to meet your expectations. Invite a select few allies to meet after work for drinks to carry on in a gossip session where you pick on many of those who were not invited. Align yourself with the most influential people in the organization. Step on anyone who obscures your path. Take credit for others work. Take every opportunity to make an employee the center of attention and feel stupid.
Objective: Make your clique the envy of your office.
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New Study Results: Everybody Suffers Under a Bully Boss
Bully bosses are toxic! Their abusive speech and other bad behavior spreads like a virus, infecting the whole office.
Bully bosses communicate by losing their temper, yelling, and belittling their subordinates. Often a bully boss will single out one employee to take out their negativity or aggression. If you’ve ever had to experience the abuse of a bully boss, you know how draining it can be.
However, the whole team will suffer at the hands of a bully boss, according to a new study by a team of researchers at Michigan State University. The study showed that the entire team suffers when a bully boss picks on just one employee.
How does the team suffer? Their productivity decreases as a direct result of verbal abuse and/or demeaning E-mails from the bully boss. Not only does a targeted employee suffer, but the whole team falls into conflicts which results in a loss of productivity.
“Teams characterized by relationship conflict,” lead investigator Crystal Farh said in a press release, “are hostile toward other members, mistreat them, speak to them rudely and experience negative emotions toward them.”
The whole group’s attitudes and behaviors start to reflect those of the bully boss as they act in a similar and hostile manner toward one another. The sobering truth is that everyone suffers at the hand of a bully boss.
When this happens, the company loses big time because now the whole team requires interpersonal relationships to be repaired. Trust among group members will have to be rebuilt as well.
- Entis, Laura. (2014) Bosses Who Pick on One Employee Ruin Everyone’s Productivity, Study Shows. Retrieved on September24, 2014 from http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/237110.
- Farh, Crystal & Andy Henion. (2014). Abusive Leadership Infects Entire Team. Retrieved on September 24, 2014 from http://msutoday.msu.edu/news/2014/abusive-leadership-infects-entire-team/.
- Farh, Crystal & Chen Z. (2014). Beyond the Individual Victim: Multilevel Consequences of Abusive Supervision in Teams. Retrieved on September 24, 2014 from http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25111251.
Disclaimer: Working for a bully boss is distressing. Do you have a real life experience working for a bully boss? Please tell us about it in the comments below.
Are you ready for the next global crisis? In the workplace, bad bosses are spreading like wildfire! An alarming 80% of employees say that their bosses are lousy. A study by Harvey Hornstein, PhD. provides that 90% of the U.S. workforce have been subjected to abusive behavior at some point in their career. Job seekers join great companies but quit because of bad bosses. As a result the organization is drained of thousands of dollars. We’re here to give you the 101 on how to cope with this growing problem.
Although we make fun of bad bosses, here at the “How To Be a Bad Boss” Blog, working for a bad boss is no laughing matter. It will truly cause you health problems and a lack of enthusiasm for going to work and facing him every day. The sad fact is that a great majority of Bad Bosses do not understand what it means to be a Good Boss. This can be a direct result of undertraining or corporate culture. If you find yourself working for a bad boss, rather than transferring departments or leaving the company, what can you do about it?
According to Dr. Randall S. Hansen, the following are suggestions for coping with a Bad Boss. Read his full article HERE.
- Try your BEST to do a good job. – First, ensure that you are doing a good job. This may be difficult given that Bad Bosses drain employees of enthusiasm. If your bad boss is affecting your morale or performance, try to focus on your work and find outside ways to motivate yourself. One method to do this is to create long term goals for yourself. Keep these future goals in mind, while completing tasks today that you might not want to do in your current job.
- Create a list of abusive behaviors. – How does your bad boss drive you insane? Start a list and write down the abusive things that he does. Be honest about the list. Go over it and revise it for a time while you add or remove any traits. Next, rank the traits from least to worst offensive. Make note of ideas for improvement for your boss. Try not to include resentment or hostility. Have an outside party (not a colleague) review the list and edit again. Then, schedule a time to discuss it with your boss.
- Document abusive behaviors. – Keep a journal where you document the bad boss’s behaviors. List the facts of the situation and how the behavior negatively effected your job performance–along with your coworkers. The activity may be enough to help you cope with the trying circumstances. If you decide to leave the organization, bring the journal to an ethical colleague in your human resources department or perhaps a mentor within the company.
- Find and Develop a Mentoring Relationship. – For those who want to keep their jobs, consider finding and developing a relationship with another supervisor or boss either in your department or within the organization. A mentor can be a useful source as they can offer advise or possibly even suggest you for a promotion. Not only that, but this person may be in a position to help you with the bad boss situation after you have all the abusive behavior documentation in order.
- Have your Bad Boss Investigated. – As a last resort, consider approaching your Bad Boss’s direct supervisor about the bad behavior — or again a trusted colleague in HR. Some companies have policies regarding a chain of command which you will want to follow. The sad fact, Dr. Randall S. Hansen brings out that, after doing so, you may be branded as a trouble-maker (with your days being numbered) even though that goes against the logic that the company would not want an abusive manager in their business.
- Don’t just do nothing! – No one should have to work for a bad boss. So, don’t let it effect your health, self-esteem, or sanity. Problems rarely ever fix themselves. If you are unsuccessful in correcting the situation and the Bad Boss seems reluctant to change, begin looking for a new job. You can use your network to search within the organization or outside of the company. A bad boss may try to sabotage your transfer within the company. Never quit before you have a new job lined out.
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Here is a list of books with helpful tips on dealing with bad bosses. If you have a bad boss these books might help.
- Bad Bosses, Crazy Coworkers & Other Office Idiots – by Vicky Oliver
- Good Boss, Bad Boss: How to Be the Best… and Learn from the Worst – by Robert I. Sutton
- A Survival Guide for Working With Bad Bosses: Dealing With Bullies, Idiots, Back-stabbers, And Other Managers from Hell –by Gini Graham Scott Ph.D.
- Got A Bad Boss? Work That Boss to Get What You Want at Work – by Dr. Noelle Nelson
- How to Work for an Idiot, Revised and Expanded with More Idiots, More Insanity, and More Incompetency: Survive and Thrive Without Killing Your Boss – by John Hoover
- The A to Z of Bad Bosses – by Lindsey McLennan
- My Boss is a Jerk – How to Survive & Thrive in a Difficult Work Environment under the Control of a Tyrant Boss – by Kathleen Rao
- The Weary Optimist: Bad Bosses, Bad Jobs, Bad Sex and “The 36 Reasons to Be Glad You Don’t Work in Human Resources” –by Dale Dauten
- Tangling with Tyrants: Managing the Balance of Power at Work– by Tony Deblauwe
- Who’s Afraid of the Big, Bad Boss? How to Survive 13 Types of Dysfunctional, Disrespectful, Dishonest Little Dictators – by Marilyn Haight
- Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job – by Lynn Taylor
- Bad Bosses, Bad Jobs, Fight Back!!! – by Gerald L. Johnson
- WORKPLACE BOSS: Overcome Bad Bosses – by Steven A. Gibson
- The No Asshole Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t – by Robert I. Sutton
- Crazy Bosses: Fully Revised and Updated – by Stanley Bing
- Nasty Bosses : How to Deal with Them without Stooping to Their Level – by Jay Carter
- My Way or the Highway: The Micromanagement Survival Guide – Harry Chambers
Working for You Isn’t Working for Me: How to Get Ahead When Your Boss Holds You Back – by Katherine Crowley
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