September 3, 2018 Melinda Longoria, MSM
You just arrived at your workplace and the most important thing on your mind is doing a good job. However, you got approached by your creepy boss who places his hand on your shoulder, or around your waist. His physical contact causes you to feel uncomfortable (this is often considered harassment). Any action that makes one uncomfortable, such as flirting and inappropriate touching, are termed as harassment.
Being aware of what is considered harassment allows you the opportunity to prevent, or put a stop to, such an act.
Below are signs that you have a creepy boss.
Asking for Late Night or Private Meetings
If you are always singled out to attend private or late-night meetings, this means that your boss is going beyond the professional limit. If you comply with these requests, even when they make you uncomfortable, you’re only making things worse for yourself. Your boss may even go as far as to ask you out for drinks or dinner privately. Let your boss know firmly that you’d prefer to conduct business during working hours at the office. This way you will not be alone with the boss, or caught in an uncomfortable situation. This also ensures that there are other people around to deter your boss’s attempts.
Receiving Calls or Texts from your Boss for No Reason
It is definitely necessary at times for the boss to be in contact with their staff after hours. However, if you are receiving late night or weekend calls that have nothing to do with your work, this might be inappropriate. Ask yourself if your boss is trying to use that opportunity to flirt with you when off the clock. There is nothing wrong with having a working relationship with your boss, however, some bosses go to far if they cross the line by making an attempt on their staff to gain their affection in an appropriate advance that is not work related.
The best way to handle an after hours advance is to let your boss know politely that you are busy with family time. If you are married, you might make it known by bringing family pictures to the office and wearing your wedding ring. This may help your boss to deter their behavior. Even if you’re not married, you can display a photo of your significant other and it always helps to be clear about your distaste about the requests.
Displaying of Sensual or Playful Body Language
Check the eye contact and body language of your boss. If you catch him casting glances at you which you aren’t uncomfortable with, that could be the sign. Do not reciprocate these behaviors because if you do, you’re letting the boss know that his behavior is OK. Instead, be mindful of your own body language and eye contact so that it is not taken the wrong way.
Spending more Time in Your Office than His Own
If your office looks very relaxed, that doesn’t mean that your boss should be moving to and fro in order for him to flirt with you. He was assigned his own office! By always spending his time with you in your office, he is exerting his authority to move closer to you, which is not appropriate. In the same token, when you visit your boss’s office, keep your interactions business professional by first knocking and then when you enter, keep your conversations short and to the point. Ensure that you are not standing or sitting in a casual way. Exit as soon as you have what you need.
He Gives you Gifts and Asks for Secrets
During the Holiday or Valentine celebration, your boss gives all the staff a motivational gift but yours is special with a flirtatious quote. This is part of the attitude displayed by a creepy boss who shows that he wants to get closer to you. One way to deter your boss is to respectfully decline the gift by saying, “Thank you but I cannot accept this gift”. If your boss asked you to keep it a secret, respond by saying, “I do not feel comfortable with that”. If you hold your ground, your boss will stop giving you special gift, and requests for secrets. He may also respect you more by showing that you have morals and integrity.
Negative Effects of A Creepy Boss
Working under a creepy boss has a lot of negative effects, such as anxiety, embarrassment, headaches, depression and fear. This may lead to poor performance evaluations, change in career goals, absenteeism, or even getting sacked from your job. If you believe that your boss is harassing you, the best thing is to confront him directly. For example, you can approach him and say, “Sir, I don’t feel comfortable with you putting your arm around my waist or on my shoulder.” Don’t appear timid while confronting him. This is going to stop the harassment. However, if this does not work, you may need to report him to your company’s HR department so that further investigation and action can be taken. It is possible that he has done this to other employees, so by speaking up, you could be helping others who have dealt with the same situation.
Disclaimer: Dealing with a creepy boss is stressful. If you are a boss, recognize your work behaviors and take note that your actions could be making others feel uncomfortable. A work environment is not the correct place to make advances.
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News flash! The bad boss gets infatuated too! Yes, the bad boss though seemingly a supreme being in his or her own fiefdom also succumbs once in a while to this thing called infatuation. Nope, the bad boss is not immune to it and once bitten; he or she can’t help but give in to what just any mere mortal would. When the boss is flirting at work…
Once the infatuation sets in, the bad boss goes into a phase that psychologically makes him or her “star struck” to the employee they are attracted to. This may go on a while until another employee catches the bad boss’ fancy.
The bad boss will certainly make the subject of his or her attraction aware of it. The bad boss will use a combination of “show it” and “hide it to the public” strategies for the poor unsuspecting employee.
So how does the bad boss do it? Well, here are the telltale signs that a bad boss is definitely attracted to an employee.
The bad boss, as a rule, never accommodates anyone, as in, no one. Well almost; except the apple of his or her eye. The bad boss smiles only to the favored one and acts extremely nice and pleasant towards him or her. The bad boss always cares to ask if the favored employee is comfortable and sees to it that he or she is.
“Just around the corner, seeking you
Puppy love is tripping lightly into view
Hiding in the hedgerows
Sneaking up on tiptoes…
Just around the corner wafting close…”
Yes, you got it right. Suddenly it’s as if the song Love So Lovely (Disney song from the Three Musketeers) plays and the bad boss just winks, smiles, and woos at the favored employee. The bad boss makes beautiful eyes, wears that silly grin, and is always looking at the employee wherever he or she is. In short, it is when the bad boss does all the creepy things that an unwanted admirer does and just literally stalks the employee within the confines of the company premises.
Perks and privileges
The bad boss listens intently to the employee, or at least pretends to do so, and always so politely and (mind you) diplomatically turns down his or her ideas as if they were fragile chinaware. The employee is offered a seat beside the bad boss. The employee is tagged along by the bad boss anywhere he or she goes in the company and, if possible, outside too. The bad boss never shows his or her angry moods at the employee and always displays coolness whenever around the employee. Most importantly, the lucky employee gets ahead of promotions and salary increases without having to do anything at all (or so it seems).
How does the bad boss ‘hide it’?
Now, how does the bad boss ‘hide it’? It’s when the bad boss pretends nothing is happening and there is no malice with what he or she is doing. It’s the totally “deny it and hide it” response when confronted and asked about what the bad boss is doing.
So does this type of thing really happen? The answer is yes. Nope, no one is pulling your leg; it is true! It’s like winning in a lottery big time. The bad boss will just be too eager to do what it takes to get the attention of the said employee.
A price to be paid
There is however a price for employee. Of course, the bad boss will not do anything without gaining something in return…
The employee is expected to reciprocate all those “good things” given him or her. Otherwise, the bad boss will turn into a hulk like creature as if to say “You won’t like me when I’m angry.” And what makes the bad boss angry? The answer is simple, an employee who doesn’t reciprocate his or her unwelcomed actions of affection errrr attraction.
The underlying motto for this type of a scenario is simple for the bad boss. “If I can’t have you over prayers, I will have you by brute force.” At the end of it all, the bad boss will always have his or way.
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The complete list of bad boss words for defining an employee.
Definition: A bad boss views an employee as…
- A person to treat as lower than thou.
- Someone who does lowly or monotonous work.
- An unskilled worker with a low social class.
- One who is stupid or an idiot.
Don Draper tells his employee… “I don’t think about you at all.”
To the bad boss, a menial employee is a peon, slave, worker, inferior, staffer, gimp, blue-collar, laborer, subordinate, hand, wage earner, desk jockey, human resource, personnel, workforce, dogsbody, drudge, drone, foot soldier, plugger, grunt, grub, slogger, toiler, workhorse, coolie, porter, serf, lazybone, loafer, slouch, idler, slug, 9 to 5er, goldbrick, shirker, nobody, straggly, servant, bondman, insurgent, mutineer, revolter, chattel, thrall, indentured servant, domestic, lackey, handmaid, attendant, odalisque, helot, thrall, agnostic, discordant, fief, stooge, pillion, muppet, puppet, airhead, bimbo, derp, dingbat, doofus, clutz, nimrod, bozo, couch potato, creep, lush, mule, plank, pinhead, tool, twit, wasteman, minion, etc.
Have we missed any? Leave your comments below.
As a bad boss, how do you use some of these words? Some of these derogatory terms are particularly useful for the bad boss when he can’t remember his employee’s names. For example:
- Muppet: a stupid person or an idiot. Call your employee and say, “Come to my office now, Muppet!”
- Wasteman: a worthless person. You pass your employee’s cubicle and joke, “Wasteman, you’re a waste of space”.
Other derogatory terms for employees, by the bad boss, can be used as a classing system for referring to your lowly workforce as a whole. For instance:
- Stooge: serves merely to support bad boss. Looking out over your production line, from behind a glass window, tell your superior, “Just look at how hard my stooges work.“
- Minion: servant of a more powerful person. Your superior asks you to do a menial task. Respond to your boss, “Ok, I will get one of my minions on it.”
By the way, to a good boss, an employee is a partner or teammate. Derogatory language in the workplace can create a hostile work environment.
Disclaimer: Bad Boss posts are meant to be humorous and should not be taken seriously. Here is an interesting article on derogatory terms in the workplace:
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