September 3, 2018 Melinda Longoria, MSM Leave a comment
You just arrived at your workplace and the most important thing on your mind is doing a good job. However, you got approached by your creepy boss who places his hand on your shoulder, or around your waist. His physical contact causes you to feel uncomfortable (this is often considered harassment). Any action that makes one uncomfortable, such as flirting and inappropriate touching, are termed as harassment.
Being aware of what is considered harassment allows you the opportunity to prevent, or put a stop to, such an act.
Below are signs that you have a creepy boss.
Asking for Late Night or Private Meetings
If you are always singled out to attend private or late-night meetings, this means that your boss is going beyond the professional limit. If you comply with these requests, even when they make you uncomfortable, you’re only making things worse for yourself. Your boss may even go as far as to ask you out for drinks or dinner privately. Let your boss know firmly that you’d prefer to conduct business during working hours at the office. This way you will not be alone with the boss, or caught in an uncomfortable situation. This also ensures that there are other people around to deter your boss’s attempts.
Receiving Calls or Texts from your Boss for No Reason
It is definitely necessary at times for the boss to be in contact with their staff after hours. However, if you are receiving late night or weekend calls that have nothing to do with your work, this might be inappropriate. Ask yourself if your boss is trying to use that opportunity to flirt with you when off the clock. There is nothing wrong with having a working relationship with your boss, however, some bosses go to far if they cross the line by making an attempt on their staff to gain their affection in an appropriate advance that is not work related.
The best way to handle an after hours advance is to let your boss know politely that you are busy with family time. If you are married, you might make it known by bringing family pictures to the office and wearing your wedding ring. This may help your boss to deter their behavior. Even if you’re not married, you can display a photo of your significant other and it always helps to be clear about your distaste about the requests.
Displaying of Sensual or Playful Body Language
Check the eye contact and body language of your boss. If you catch him casting glances at you which you aren’t uncomfortable with, that could be the sign. Do not reciprocate these behaviors because if you do, you’re letting the boss know that his behavior is OK. Instead, be mindful of your own body language and eye contact so that it is not taken the wrong way.
Spending more Time in Your Office than His Own
If your office looks very relaxed, that doesn’t mean that your boss should be moving to and fro in order for him to flirt with you. He was assigned his own office! By always spending his time with you in your office, he is exerting his authority to move closer to you, which is not appropriate. In the same token, when you visit your boss’s office, keep your interactions business professional by first knocking and then when you enter, keep your conversations short and to the point. Ensure that you are not standing or sitting in a casual way. Exit as soon as you have what you need.
He Gives you Gifts and Asks for Secrets
During the Holiday or Valentine celebration, your boss gives all the staff a motivational gift but yours is special with a flirtatious quote. This is part of the attitude displayed by a creepy boss who shows that he wants to get closer to you. One way to deter your boss is to respectfully decline the gift by saying, “Thank you but I cannot accept this gift”. If your boss asked you to keep it a secret, respond by saying, “I do not feel comfortable with that”. If you hold your ground, your boss will stop giving you special gift, and requests for secrets. He may also respect you more by showing that you have morals and integrity.
Negative Effects of A Creepy Boss
Working under a creepy boss has a lot of negative effects, such as anxiety, embarrassment, headaches, depression and fear. This may lead to poor performance evaluations, change in career goals, absenteeism, or even getting sacked from your job. If you believe that your boss is harassing you, the best thing is to confront him directly. For example, you can approach him and say, “Sir, I don’t feel comfortable with you putting your arm around my waist or on my shoulder.” Don’t appear timid while confronting him. This is going to stop the harassment. However, if this does not work, you may need to report him to your company’s HR department so that further investigation and action can be taken. It is possible that he has done this to other employees, so by speaking up, you could be helping others who have dealt with the same situation.
Disclaimer: Dealing with a creepy boss is stressful. If you are a boss, recognize your work behaviors and take note that your actions could be making others feel uncomfortable. A work environment is not the correct place to make advances.
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I bet you that at least once you have been in an awkward situation at your job that involved your boss. According to a study made by CareerBuilder, 23% of the employees reported that their bosses ask them to perform tasks that are not related to their jobs.
It is completely normal when your boss asks you things like: “When are you going to finish your paperwork?”, “Can you stay two or more hours to finish this thing?”, or “Why are you googling memes instead of working?!?” OK, you probably aren’t doing that at work, but you get the point.
Well, there is a very thin, almost invisible line, between a normal work-related question and an asked favor that is completely inappropriate. The important thing here is to differentiate between them so that you can avoid situations that you don’t want to be in.
Examples of some strange things that bosses have asked their employees:
Things unrelated to your job.
“My boss asked me to be in a photo shoot for an ad dressed as a superhero”.
“She asked me to pluck a black hair off her face before a meeting”.
Requesting Personal Favors
“The boss asked me to be a surrogate mother for her – more than once.”
“He asked me for a back rub”.
Something very Embarrassing or Illegal
“She asked me to wait on her illegally parked car”.
“He asked me to lend him money for….”
- How to Keep a Good Relationship with your Boss
No matter what weird thing that has been done or said to you by your boss, you have the right to say no. First, remember to have a good relationship with your boss, and if you want to keep it that way, communication is very important. So, first listen, be patient, and then be clear and polite about what is or is not appropriate behavior.
To read a great article which includes four ways to tactfully say no to your boss, CLICK HERE. However, if your boss continues in the inappropriate behavior, you may need to seek the counsel of your HR department.
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What strange things has your boss requested you to do and how did you handle the situation? Comment below:
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Dropping the Bomb: How a Bad Boss Delivers Bad News to Employees
It’s a fact that being a bad boss is not easy, especially when you need to deliver bad news to your employees.
Typical reasons for needing to deliver bad news to employees, include:
- Legal Issues
- Product Recalls
- Large Scale Layoffs
- Untimely Departure of an Executive
As you will notice, there are three critical techniques in delivering any bad news to an employee and that is to deliver the message FAST, don’t apologize, and always make your exit swiftly. Do not remain in the room as this will only cause the employee more stress as they try to choke back their tears in front of you. Never admit any blame or apologize for any grievance. Avoiding questions is in everyone’s best interest to minimize confrontation.
- With the bad boss, there is always the direct approach when delivering bad news to employees, “You’re all fired. There are empty boxes lining this wall for a reason; use them, people!” Hand an empty box to the nearest employee standing next to you. Don’t apologize and make your exit swiftly.
- SANDWICH the bad news into the conversation. For a softer approach, start by saying something positive, slip the negative statement in quickly, and then close with a distraction. Try this for an example, “Thank you all for coming in to work today, our office is closing and your last check will be delivered Friday, we’re providing Pizza for lunch for those who finish the week with us”. Make your exit swiftly to avoid questions.
- Politician Approach – If you somehow become trapped in an uncomfortable situation where questions fly your way by disgruntled employees, just deny everything like a politician! “What are you talking about? No, we did not promise free Pizza for lunch today, but you will get your paychecks”. Your goal was to get the employees to work till Friday; mission accomplished. Remember, you have two different party’s interests at heart, that of the employee and of upper management. But, for the bad boss, upper management comes first and that might take a little lying.
- Let them find out from others… Still don’t like the idea of communicating to your employees or the potential confrontation? There is always the option to allow your employees find out the company is going out of business from outsiders, the news, or your public press release. This tactic is especially effective if you feel that your staff might jump ship early if they are tipped off about the bad news. You could also let them continue to blissfully work unaware of the pending danger, and then place a note on the locked doors for them to encounter upon arriving to work on Friday.
- Corporate jargon deliverance speech: Is your superior in some amount of bad publicity due to his or her unexplained and untimely exit? Avoid hurting the entire company’s morale by keeping this questionable detail to yourself. Instead of telling the truth, the best way to deliver this news is with a departmental or company-wide speech that is filled with very confusing corporate jargon. “Despite what you may hear in the news, we are encouraging a new green initiative and Bill has graciously volunteered to be our first work-from-home executive”. As always, make your exit swiftly.
Or you could deliver good news in person, and bad news in Email:
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